...Should children be their parents’ retirement plan?
...I am so sick to my stomach!
…A 73-year old woman’s statistics
She was a UNTH nurse and retired since 2007.
1. Widowed in 1999.
2. Gave birth to 6 children with 5 surviving (4 boys and a girl)
3. Her husband was a retired Principal
4. Her only daughter lives in Lagos _( in a bad marriage since her husband doesn’t allow her to bring her mum over)
5. Her three sons live abroad. The only son in Nigeria lives in Enugu and his wife pays her a visit on Sundays but stopped for reasons not revealed.
6. Her only sister, who is older than her but still strong in health, visited and found her in a bad state and decided to take her with her to her Umuahia home.
She had signs of dementia. She also suffers from diabetes and weak bladder. So, the urine smell complained by people is well understood. Her only elder sister took care of her since her arrival till her sister’s son had accident in Abuja and was left for neighbours to attend to her.
The sister’s neighbour left her and travelled.
Mama was found dead close to an opene fridge. Her corpse has been deposited in a morgue this morning.
Her first son is a medical doctor in America, married to a Brazilian and only called once in a while after her mum was moved to Umuahia by her sister and kids.
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ANALYSIS:
Mama is not childless.
She raised all her kids and they’re all professionals.
Money was not an issue. Her husband, though a principal, built a bungalow where Mama and her kids lived till his death.
Mama’s sister said her only daughter has only called twice since she came to Enugu and picked her younger sister with her.
Mama’s senior sister wants to bury her Junior sister on her own and mourn her quietly !!
Her kids are now back crying and saying they will give their mother a befitting burial.
I wanted to call them out & curse them.
I am in pains.
My heart is heavy.
A woman that raised five children should not have suffered like this.
While you’re popping kids, remember that one day……
– The bones and muscles will be WEAK..
– The eyes might lose their functions
– The bladder might be weak and you cannot control your urine.
– Cash flow will cease.
– Your legs won’t be able to carry your weight.
– Your hands might not hold things due to parkinson or rheumatism or any of the other numerous infirmities
– Your mouth may be smelling because you cannot brush it well.
– Your brain might stop functioning.
– Dementia and loss of memory can set in.
– You may not even be able to take care of your personal hygiene…_
It is called OLD AGE characteristics.
Life can be harsh and your children may be too busy with their lives that your care will be relegated to STRANGERS.
Children are NOT retirement benefits.
Old age is a reality !
Prepare for that time.
*Be armed !
Learn this big lesson Today !
Thank you…. olu Ademuyiwa
